Divorce mediation in Badhoevedorp, near Amsterdam

A divorce is a hectic and emotional time. You have to find answers to questions you never wanted to think about, especially when there are children. As a family mediator, I bring overview and calm. I help you reach fair and decent agreements together that suit your situation.

Why divorce with a mediator?

Nobody wants a bitter divorce. You avoid one by continuing to talk to each other and by naming what you both consider important, for example the wellbeing of the children. If you also look at what is going well, there is often more understanding for the rest. That creates room for solutions.

The advantages of divorcing with a mediator:

• Lower costs. A mediator's fee is usually lower than a lawyer's, and you share the costs (usually half each).
• Settled quickly. Three to five sessions of two hours are often enough.
• You decide for yourselves. You make the agreements together, instead of a judge deciding for you.
• Better relations. Mediation often leads to more understanding rather than more conflict. That is invaluable when you remain parents together.

In the Netherlands, a lawyer is always involved in a divorce in the end: only a lawyer can file the petition with the court. I prepare all the documents. The lawyer I work with reviews them and files them. That way, four eyes look at your agreements. Read more about my partners.

What do we arrange?

The children and the parenting plan

If you have children under 18, a parenting plan is mandatory. It sets out where the children live, how care is divided, holidays and public holidays, how you make decisions together about school and health, and the costs of the children. Read more about the children in a divorce.

Maintenance, assets and pension

How do you divide what you have built up together? Is child maintenance or spousal maintenance needed, and how much? And what happens to the pension? Read more about finances in a divorce.

The house

Do you sell, or does one of you stay and buy out the other? And how does it work with a rented home? Read more about the house in a divorce.

A business of your own

Does one of you own a business or work as a freelancer? Then the divorce quickly becomes more complex, financially and legally. With my background as an entrepreneur, this is familiar territory for me. Read, for example, divorcing with a business.

How divorce mediation works

1. Getting acquainted. In a meeting without obligation, at the office, at your home or online, we see whether there is a click and trust. I map out your situation: are there children, a home you own, a business or other special circumstances?
2. The sessions. We discuss all topics: the children, the division of assets and debts, maintenance and the house. There is room for emotions, and everything that needs to be said is put on the table.
3. The documents. I draw up the divorce settlement agreement, with the parenting plan if there are children. Once you agree, the documents go to the lawyer, who checks them legally and files them with the court. After the court's decision, the divorce is registered with the municipality.
4. Aftercare. With the last signature everything is on paper, but coming to terms with it often only really begins then. If new questions arise later, you can always come back to me.

Read more about the approach on how it works.

What does it cost?

For divorces and other family matters, I charge €195 per hour including VAT. In more than 75% of cases, the mediation costs between €1,500 and €2,500 in total. Add to that €950 for the lawyer and the court fees. If one of you qualifies for legal aid, the government pays a substantial part of the costs. Everything about the costs is on the fees page.

International or in English

Does one of you have an international background, or would you rather speak English? I conduct divorce mediations in English as well. The sessions can take place at the office in Badhoevedorp, at your home or online.

Also for cohabiting couples and registered partners

Mediation is not only for married couples. If you live together or are in a registered partnership, I can also help you set out your agreements about children, the home and money properly.

Get acquainted?

Want to know whether mediation suits you? Book an introductory meeting without obligation or give me a call.

Online introduction Introduction at the office Call +31 20 659 88 28